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Jan 17, On the other hand, some men think they are the very definition of a “Real Man. A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is. He is loyal to his partner and knows that relationships take hard work to keep strong. Mar 1, Money changes a lot, but there are some areas in the relationships Even if you' ve been friends with a guy for some time, most women. Oct 23, Researchers asked women and men "friends" what they really think—and got ones, women were sensitive to their male friends' relationship status and complications—and people within opposite-sex relationships agree.
I read books on marriage. They didn't say anything to me.
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I read Jewish books on marriage. They had a lot of wisdom, but I was looking for more advice on what a man should be. Then I went to the original Jewish sources. I started with Adam -- the first man in the world who was in a relationship.
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He asked God for a wife and God created Eve to be an "ezer k'negdo" -- a helper opposing him or a helper against him Genesis, 2: A helper against him? What in the world does that mean? I looked in the commentary at the bottom of the page which quoted the Talmud, "If the man is worthy, the woman will be his helper; if he is not worthy, she will be against him.
If he doesn't, she will be against him. This one sentence changed the way I looked at relationships. It's up to the man to make it work. If a man works on himself and develops himself to be worthy, the woman will be his partner. What happens next in the world's first relationship? Adam and Eve are in the Garden of Eden.
They have one commandment: Don't eat the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge. Eve eats it and then she gives it to Adam. Then Adam hides in the bushes and God asks him: Adam did you eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge that I commanded you not to eat? What did Adam do? Did he take responsibility for what happened? He says to God, "The woman you sent me gave it to me and I ate it.
He gave in to something he knew was wrong and then he blamed his wife. I thought only men today did that. Does blaming his wife help Adam avoid responsibility? God doesn't say, "Adam, I understand -- she pushed you into it. You're not responsible for what happened.
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He punishes Adam for eating the fruit, and for not using his own judgment. I think it's significant that one of the first lessons in the first chapter of Genesis is about what a man should be in a relationship. My search led me to discover a lot of timeless wisdom that for generations fathers taught their sons -- wisdom that is so relevant today. Today's absent father, either from long hours of work or divorce, means many boys grow up without a strong male role model. Here are five of the lessons I learned on my journey for wisdom on what a man in a relationship should be: Take responsibility Learn from Adam.
Don't do things you know are wrong and then blame others. If you make a mistake, take responsibility for your actions. One of the meanings of the word "husband" is someone who skillfully manages his household. A manager takes responsibility.
As Adam experienced, there is little sympathy for a man who blames a woman for something that has gone wrong. Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief.
Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends.
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Men were also more willing to act on this mistakenly perceived mutual attraction. However, men and women differed in the extent to which they saw attached friends as potential romantic partners. Men seem to see myriad opportunities for romance in their supposedly platonic opposite-sex friendships.
The women in these friendships, however, seem to have a completely different orientation—one that is actually platonic. To the outside observer, it seems clear that these vastly different views about the potential for romance in opposite-sex friendships could cause serious complications—and people within opposite-sex relationships agree.
In a follow-up study, adults many of whom were married were asked to list the positive and negative aspects of being friends with a specific member of the opposite sex. Variables related to romantic attraction e.
However, the differences between men and women appeared here as well. Males were significantly more likely than females to list romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, and this discrepancy increased as men aged—males on the younger end of the spectrum were four times more likely than females to report romantic attraction as a benefit of opposite-sex friendships, whereas those on the older end of the spectrum were ten times more likely to do the same.
Although women seem to be genuine in their belief that opposite-sex friendships are platonic, men seem unable to turn off their desire for something more.